Depression turns you against yourself, taking self-loathing to a whole new level, and making self-love damn near impossible.
Even the phrase “no one can love you until you love yourself,” makes us cringe because that’s almost impossible for us.
We need someone to support and love us, in order to love ourselves and life again.
And sometimes we just have to admit that we can’t go through this journey alone.
People with depression tend to love differently in terms of relearning love and happiness after battling depression for what feels like forever.
1. Once we know you love us, it becomes a crutch.
When we are drowning in our negative thoughts, it’s your company that brings us out of the darkness.
The texts will be often and we’ll constantly ask to hang out because with you everything is a little lighter.
2. It means the world to us when we see you trying to help… even if we don’t show it.
Just know deep down you are keeping our light burning inside us.
There will be times when we show great amounts of affection to those who have been there for us.
Sometimes we’ll give lots of hugs and kisses, and by that, we’re basically saying that we’re getting better.
It may be a long way, but we’re getting there.
3. It’s not easy expressing ourselves, so we turn to other outlets.
We learn to love life by expressing ourselves through art, writing, music, and even knitting.
It helps to let all the dark places in our minds out.
4. We are seeking purpose in life and will do anything to find it.
Suicidal thoughts are all too familiar for those who suffer from depression because depression erases our sense of purpose.
It’s easy to feel like we don’t matter and that we’re a burden to everyone around us.
We will often struggle to find some meaning in our work, we will do all that we can to find a reason to live.
5. We become even more sensitive to the smallest things.
People with depression tend to lose interest in songs and films because they rarely evoke any emotions in us.
However, when we learn to love these things again, we may become highly sensitive to them.
Songs that have soft or haunting melodies and movies that have emotional scenes can make us prone to tears.
6. We need you to catch us when we slip.
Even though we’re learning to love again, people with depression will have the occasional breakdown.
Sometimes loving someone can be such a labor and we need a shoulder to cry on.
7. The feeling of belonging is huge to us.
We want to make in impact on the world, to find where we are meant to be.
There’s a part of our hearts that want to love being here, we just haven’t found it yet.
8. We find deep meaning in small things.
Like having a diner burger with friends, or hanging out in the library.
Anything that can help us to enjoy our lives more means a lot to us.
9. We are only as productive as our depression allows us.
The thing is, it will pin us to the bed and give us no hope of getting up or doing anything we wanted to do yesterday.
This includes: washing dishes, baking, cleaning our rooms, and even thoroughly cleaning the bathrooms.
You’d be surprised how much energy even little tasks take.
10. We want to feel alive, even for just a moment.
People with depression may sometimes be daredevils.
We’ll go on scary roller coaster rides, or even race in go-carts, in order to feel the rush of adrenaline.